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Tuesday, March 28th, 2017
This is a short post, with a lot of valuable links.
Way back in 2007 Standard prof Bob Sutton wrote the No Asshole Rule and McKinsey did in-depth research on the damage they do.
In 2015 Rich Waidmann created a no jerks culture.
Sutton followed up in 2015 essentially saying it’s all about the people.
Last week a post on LinkedIn talking about women CTOs who won’t hire “brilliant jerks.”
There are hundreds more posts, articles, books, research, comments, etc. that talk about the downside of jerks — brilliant or otherwise. (In case you’re wondering, the brilliance supposedly offsets the jerk part.)
But it’s a fallacy to think that it’s just women who are creating cultures that don’t tolerate brilliant jerks, just as it is to think that all brilliant jerks are male.
As with any other label, brilliant jerks can be found in any imaginable combination of race, creed, color, national origin, gender identification, size, and shape.
None are worth keeping, because, even if it takes some time, they will poison your culture and run off your team.
Image credit: Kurt Bauschardt
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Monday, March 27th, 2017
It’s amazing to me, but looking back over more than a decade of writing I find posts that still impress, with information that is as useful now as when it was written.
Golden Oldies are a collection of what I consider some of the best posts during that time.
Since tomorrow’s post takes yet another look at Silicon Valley culture, sources of the blatant misogyny, and how that relates to brilliant jerks and so-called stars, I thought I’d share Rich Waidmann’s take on the subject.
Read other Golden Oldies here.
I’m in love — with a man I never met, never spoke to, never followed or chatted with online.
His name is Rich Waidmann and he’s founder and CEO of Connectria Hosting.
I love him because when he started his company he consciously set out to make it a great place to work. (See the full Infographic at Business Insider)
That means it’s a job requirement at his company that every employee treat everyone else with courtesy and respect as well as “going the extra mile” to take care of people in the community who are less fortunate
Then his company did a survey and found that
More than half (55%) of 250 IT professionals in the US. surveyed said they had been bullied by a co-worker. And 65% have said they dreaded going to work because of bad behavior of a co-worker.
Waidmann believes it shouldn’t be that way so he’s starting a No Jerks Allowed movement in an effort to encourage better cultures.
Way back in 2007 Stanford’s Bob Sutton wrote The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t, but looking at the stats I’m not sure how much good it actually did.
And considering the fact that companies are shoehorning more people into less space something needs to change.
The Talmud says, “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.” Moreover, it’s often as we are that particular day, or even minute, and even as we change, minute to minute, so do others.
Jerks are known to lower productivity and kill innovation, so a lot of good information on identifying and dealing with jerks has been developed since Sutton’s book came out.
Contributing to that effort, here are my four favorite MAP attitudes for dealing with jerks.
- Life happens, people react and act out, but that doesn’t mean you have to let their act in.
- Consider the source of the comment before considering the comment, then let its effect on you be in direct proportion to your respect for that source.
- Use mental imagery to defuse someone’s effect on you. This is especially useful against bullying and intimidation. Do it by having your mental image of the person be one that strips power symbols and adds amusement. (Give me a call if you want my favorite, it’s a bit rude, but has worked well for many people.)
And, finally, the one I try to keep uppermost in my mind at all times
- At least some of “them” some of the time consider me a jerk—and some of the time they are probably correct.
Image credit: Connectria
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Monday, May 2nd, 2016
It’s amazing to me, but looking back over nearly a Decade of writing I find posts that still impress, with information that is as useful now as when it was written. Golden Oldies is a collection of what I consider some of the best posts during that time.
How often do you find yourself reacting angrily to another’s actions? Saying/thinking stuff that would turn the air blue or gesturing to voice your feelings? We’ve all been there, so this post is as true today as it was when I wrote it nine years ago. Read other Golden Oldies here
I write a lot about the actions fostered by good MAP, how to evaluate your own MAP and how to modify/change it if you’re so inclined—but this only applies to output, what about input?
Now and then we all find ourselves dealing with %#@$&, better known as jerks or, to be truly polite, difficult people.
The Talmud says, “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.” Further, it’s often as we are that particular day, or even minute, and even as we change, minute to minute, so do others.
There’s lots of good information on identifying and dealing with jerks in the article; also, here are four of my favorite MAP attitudes that have helped myself and others over the years.
- Life happens, people react and act out, but that doesn’t mean you have to let their act in.
- Consider the source of the comment before considering the comment, then let its effect on you be in direct proportion to your respect for that source.
- Use mental imagery to defuse someone’s effect on you. This is especially useful against intimidation. Do it by having your mental image of the person be one that strips power symbols and adds amusement. (Give me a call if you want my favorite, it’s a bit too rude for a business blog, but has worked well for many people.)
And, finally, the one I hold uppermost in my mind
At least some of “them” consider me a jerk — and at times they are probably correct.
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Tuesday, February 24th, 2015
I’m in love — with a man I never met, never spoke to, never followed or chatted with online.
His name is Rich Waidmann and he’s founder and CEO of Connectria Hosting.
I love him because when he started his company he consciously set out to make it a great place to work.
That means it’s a job requirement at his company that every employee treat everyone else with courtesy and respect as well as “going the extra mile” to take care of people in the community who are less fortunate
Then his company did a survey and found that
More than half (55%) of 250 IT professionals in the US. surveyed said they had been bullied by a co-worker. And 65% have said they dreaded going to work because of bad behavior of a co-worker.
Waidmann believes it shouldn’t be that way so he’s starting a No Jerks Allowed movement in an effort to encourage better cultures.
Way back in 2007 Stanford’s Bob Sutton wrote The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t, but looking at the stats I’m not sure how much good it actually did.
And considering the fact that companies are shoehorning more people into less space something needs to change.
The Talmud says, “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.” Moreover, it’s often as we are that particular day, or even minute, and even as we change, minute to minute, so do others.
Jerks are known to lower productivity and kill innovation, so a lot of good information on identifying and dealing with jerks has been developed since Sutton’s book came out.
Contributing to that effort, here are my four favorite MAP attitudes for dealing with jerks.
- Life happens, people react and act out, but that doesn’t mean you have to let their act in.
- Consider the source of the comment before considering the comment, then let its effect on you be in direct proportion to your respect for that source.
- Use mental imagery to defuse someone’s effect on you. This is especially useful against bullying and intimidation. Do it by having your mental image of the person be one that strips power symbols and adds amusement. (Give me a call if you want my favorite, it’s a bit rude, but has worked well for many people.)
And, finally, the one I try to keep uppermost in my mind at all times
- At least some of “them” some of the time consider me a jerk—and some of the time they are probably correct.
Image credit: Connectria
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Saturday, August 25th, 2012
Today we look at what’s going on in and around your head.
According to current research, being an overconfident, rude jerk is a great way to get ahead and have people look up to you. (In reality this only applies to men.)
In other words, overconfident people are perceived as having more social status, and social status is golden. (…) …research suggests that we also see rudeness as a sign of power.
Offended? Good. Because before you decide that jerkism is your best path to success see why it doesn’t really work most of the time
For all their charisma, bravery and bravado, jerks don’t do as well as you might think.
Jerkism covers a multitude of sins including positive thinking (free registration required), especially when it holds 110% sway over the minds of leaders.
But several recent studies have critiqued the positive thinking movement, highlighting the negative personal and organizational effects (…) In short, Prozac leaders can wind up believing their own narrative that everything is going well.
People spend large amounts of time these days trying to assimilate all the available information applicable to their job, project, etc, because it will improve their results. But maybe that’s not such a good thing; instead consider the idea of two lists.
It’s hard to do because maybe, just maybe, that next piece of information will be the key to our success. But our success actually hinges on the opposite: on our willingness to risk missing some information. Because trying to focus on it all is a risk in itself. We’ll exhaust ourselves. We’ll get confused, nervous, and irritable.
What will your life be like as you age in an era of DIY toughness? If you are lucky, EngAGE, a program that enhances life for the 99% will become a model.
“We see people without money, who had very hard lives, who are not aware of their own potential,” said Maureen Kellen-Taylor, the chief operating officer of EngAGE, a program in the Los Angeles area that provides arts and other classes for some 5,000 people — the vast majority of them low-income — living in senior apartment communities.
Flickr image credit: pedroelcarvalho
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Friday, July 10th, 2009
Phil Gerbyshak wrote a brilliant post setting out Ten Commandments For Social Media
- Thou shalt add value first, and sell LAST
- Thou shalt listen twice as much as you talk
- Thou shalt not spam all your contacts
- Thou shalt not act like a stuck up jerk
- Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s contacts
- Thou shalt personalize every invitation I make to join any network
- Thou shalt remember that 10 can be more powerful than 10,000
- Thou shalt not beg (for anything)
- Thou shalt be authentic and transparent in all you do
- Thou shalt take the blog off the blog
As regular readers know I’m not much of a social media user, but these are long overdue.
Click over to the full definitions and you’ll see that even those that seem to refer only to social media have their counterpart in real society.
Sadly, no matter how widely the commandments disperse, I doubt that they’ll make a great difference.
Why? Because the Net is populated by the same folks who inhabit the real world and people don’t follow them there—it would be a much nicer place if they did.
Worse, the Net magnifies and increases incivility because it lacks emotional context, which negates empathy.
Lori Drew is a good example of this.
Obviously, Drew showed an amazing lack of maturity and sense, and although the judge overturned the jury’s guilty verdict it was on a point of law, not on her actions.
One has to wonder if Drew would have acted the same way in the real world where the pain she was causing would have been obvious.
So I have three recommendations for you in addition to Phil’s commandments
- Pack your manners, ethics, morals and especially your common sense when you travel through social media.
- Be cautious, because not everyone will pack their bags as carefully as you.
- Remember that social media makes people more so; those who are good are very, very good and those who are full or borderline jerks will probably be worse.
Image credit: Intersection Consulting on flickr
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