Golden Oldies: Ducks in a Row: When It Comes to Respect You Get What You Give
Monday, August 8th, 2016It’s amazing to me, but looking back over a decade of writing I find posts that still impress, with information that is as useful now as when it was written. Golden Oldies is a collection of what I consider some of the best posts during that time.
I always find it interesting when people who show a lack of respect for others complain about being treated the same way. And to truly understand this post be sure to click the Carl Sagan link at the end. Read other Golden Oldies here.
One of the most common complaints I hear about from workers, both new and those who have been around for a while, is the lack of respect from colleagues, subordinates and bosses.
One of the most common complaints I hear from bosses, and not just new ones, is about the lack of respect from colleagues, bosses and staff.
The common theme that runs through most of these conversations is that “they” should respect me (for being me), but “they” need to earn my respect.
At first glance this looks like one of those chicken/egg questions, but it’s not.
While I’m the first to say that people need to earn respect, I’d rather frame this discussion as one of initiative (or leadership, if you prefer).
Since most people tend to mirror those around them if you take initiative and show respect you will be shown respect in return.
If you show disrespect you should expect to receive the same.
If you show neither until you see what the other person does expect neither, which usually feels like disrespect.
And in case you’re assuming a Golden Rule mentality don’t; what I’m recommending is the application of Carl Sagan’s Tit-for-Tat Rule.
Flickr image credit: Dave Gough
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