Stress-relieving head-game #1
by Miki SaxonOver the years clients (and others) have asked some version of, “How do you manage to stay so laid back? When I can’t do everything I’ve planned, I still find myself very frustrated. Sometimes I feel that I’m running out of time—not to achieve greatness, but to just get done all the things that need doing. I know you’re in the same situation, but it doesn’t seem to effect you. “
Part of my answer is that I burned myself to the point that I don’t over-commit the way I used to, but mostly my solution falls under the heading of “head-games.”
I admit that overcoming a bit of frustration would heighten my feelings of accomplishment and success, but more than a bit would leave me feeling that it’s (didn’t matter what “it” was) hopeless. Then I really got to thinking about what would/did happen when I didn’t get something done. my boss/clients would holler, but, lo, no thunderbolt shot down from the heavens to incinerate me; the sun continued to rise in the east; and the task was still there at the dawn of the new day.
Since that finally sank in, I find it much easier to prioritize and schedule me (both biz and personal) by applying what I call the Thunderbolt Theory of Importance.
Since then, I’ve been a lot happier and rarely stressed. I find very few things stand up to my Thunderbolt Theory, so I have very little that falls in the do-or-be-frustrated category. It doesn’t always work, but it sure helps!
May 17th, 2006 at 12:28 am
Sounds promising – looking forward to hearing more of it :) And why is it called “head-game”?